On (un)Happiness

"Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart"; "Strange, how we decorate pain"
- Pooh, House at Pooh Corner; Atwood, Morning in the Burned House

This collection is partly about small things, and that room in your heart; but it is also about pain, and all it's strange decorations.

credenda

On Emotion


On attraction and love


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Amusing Ourselves to Death


The Value of the Sacred


Emotion and the Mind


Existential Therapy


Genetics is nurture


The nuance in Maslow's Hierarchy


States of Mind


Your personality doesn't belong to you


The true meaning of family ties


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The predictability of humans


The value of the details of trauma


The trouble with repressed memories


On Emotion


What lies beneath? The uncomfortably vague 'unconscious processes'


Why being sad isn't always a bad thing


On attraction and love


The false promise of a return to nature


Why catharsis is a (dangerous) lie


Learned helplessness is darker (and less understood) than you think


The most powerful way to get someone to like you, is to like them first


Why your unconscious isn't the bad guy


Why being 'needy' isn't such a bad thing


Why no one ever takes your advice


Four models of psychopathology (all of which are problematic)


Happiness is a direction


Rejection changes your DNA


The three aspects of the unique human experience


Coming apart - the pattern of relationship breakdown


Why incompetent people are unaware of how incompetent they are


Why OCD is a lot worse than you thought


Are people always shutting you down? This might be why (and the reason might surprise you)


The Difference Between Anger, Hurt and Hate—it's about power


The four most common causes of conflict in relationships


How to never get mad again (kind of)


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