The Quest for Charisma Chapter One
Dorian Minors • April 21, 2015
Why do some people captivate us? Where within us lies the ability to exude the kind of warmth, grace and presence that draws one ineluctably in? Here, we examine this question. And what better way to explore the characteristics of charm than through the stories of the most winsome characters ever created or remembered.
The initial allure
Nineteen Twenty-Two. The midst of the glamorous 'Roaring Twenties', or as the French put it; l'années follies, the crazy years. Our hero, Nick Carraway forlornly recounts the extraordinary (and eventually tragic) adventure he took part in that year when he made the move from the isolated US Midwest to the razzle-dazzle of New York city. Renting a ramshackle house in neighbouring Long Island, Nick unwittingly finds himself a member of a community of 'new money'; young, sophisticated and profoundly wealthy party animals. Of which, the most intriguing is his neighbour; the 'great' Jay Gatsby.
Those ethereal elements
As Nick begins to move through the local circles, he notices that almost everyone treats Gatsby's name with a certain kind of awe. Gatsby is a mysterious force, unseen and unknown even at the frequent, extravagant parties he throws. Yet, Gatsby is ubiquitous. Not only does everyone know of him, everyone speaks of him constantly. You see, Gatsby has nailed all three of the keys to attraction. He is similar to the community's wealthy youths, he's close by, and everyone is familiar with him, all of which are thought to be crucial to the development of attraction.
But Gatsby's magnetism is much more than simply that. Nick stumbles every so often across a thread of confusion about Gatsby's wealth. You see, Gatsby appeared from virtually nowhere and had somehow amassed a fortune. Yet no one knew him personally and couldn't account for his sudden rise to prominence. People, therefore, assumed that Gatsby was some kind of financial genius. Alongside this assumption, is the pervasive hype surrounding Gatsby's parties. Frequently, Gatsby invites a select crowd of hundreds to his mansion for an evening of raucous drinking, dining, dancing, and (as the movie would have us believe) confetti. Gatsby's parties are the most sought after events in the entire community. In these ways, Gatsby has fully realised two of the four types of attraction. He comes off as someone wholly successful in business and in his personal life (at least early in the book), which scientists describe as a feature of people we are extremely attracted to for their lifestyle capabilities. But those parties depict him as a consummate socialite, another feature we find compelling.
That first meeting
Eventually Nick is invited to one of these parties. His excitement is palpable. Finally, an opportunity to meet the enigmatic figure that seems to pulse through the veins of this small community. He hands his invitation to the security at the wrought-iron gates to Gatsby's impractically fabulous mansion. As he walks through the gates and moves through the crowds he reflects on his nervousness. Fortunately, he's distracted before his thoughts spiral out of control but one can see the elements of approach anxiety appear.
He's distracted by an acquaintance, the enticing Jordan Baker (with whom Nick eventually shacks up), known through his effervescent cousin Daisy. Together, they suddenly stumble across Gatsby himself. An attractive man with an absorbing smile. A rigid posture, a firm handshake. A bespoke suit that enhanced a muscular physique. All in all, an imposing and memorable figure. However, Gatsby is rather aloof and Nick struggles to make small talk with the man, despite Gatsby recognising Nick from his Unit in the War.
Soon after, Gatsby takes Jordan away to talk and Nick, now bereft of company, goes home. However, as time goes by, it appears that Gatsby did in fact take a shine to our Nick. He invites him to ride with him in his expensive (and iconic) yellow car and makes mention of going out in his seaplane among other festivities. It becomes apparent that Gatsby and Nick are becoming fast friends. As Nick reminisces on Gatsby he touches on many of the things that drew him to Gatsby. Although Gatsby spent a great deal of time telling enthralling stories about his past (again, touching on that lifestyle attraction), Nick muses on Gatsby's ability to make Nick feel heard and the lavish attention Gatsby bestowed on him. That, along with his expressive first appearance made for an impressive first impression.
Past the first impression
However. It soon becomes apparent that Gatsby has something of an ulterior motive. Gatsby, Nick's eventual romantic liason Jordan relates, maintains a burning love for Nick's debonair cousin Daisy since a failed amour five years previously. In fact, his lavish lifestyle and flamboyantparties are simply an attempt to return Daisy to him. Gatsby begins to request that Nick pass on information about Daisy and her now-husband Tom. This develops into a request for Nick to invite Daisy to dine with Gatsby's attendance to remain a secret. I must now digress to explain some of the nature of relationships. It could be seen here that all along, Gatsby has been seeing this as a relationship based on worth - Nick is only valuable because of the link he provides to Daisy. This relationship certainly does not breed attraction. In fact, this relationship often breeds resentment. But in fact, the truth is that Gatsby becomes more and more reliant on Nick. In a world in which many people are eager to get their hands on his fortune, and many of his business partners are shady at best and openly related to the mob at worst, Gatsby is able to share with Nick his musings on the world. This lends itself to a relationship based on exchange, if not a relationship based on shared needs.
To be continued...This is the first 'chapter' in our quest for charisma. Join us and be the first to know about new chapters to this story as we continue to tie together the elements of what makes a relationship last, as well as the latest Dirt each week as we build our knowledge on our journey to 'the good life'.
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